Sex for the day

Time has an article by Alexandra Sifferlin about sex education:

In the spring of 2014, parents in the normally-progressive Bay Area city of Fremont, California, started a campaign to get a book removed from the ninth grade curriculum for the five district high schools, arguing it was inappropriate for their thirteen- and fourteen-year olds. They hired a local lawyer and put together a petition with more than 2500 signatures.
Their target: Your Health Today, a sex-ed book published by McGraw Hill. It offers the traditional advice and awkward diagrams plus some considerably more modern tips: a how-to for asking partners if they’ve been tested for STDs, a debate on legalizing prostitution. And then there was this: “One kind of sex game is bondage and discipline, in which restriction of movement (e.g. using handcuffs or ropes) or sensory deprivation (using blindfolds or masks) is employed for sexual enjoyment. Most sex games are safe and harmless, but partners need to openly discuss and agree beforehand on what they are comfortable doing.”
“I was just astounded,” says Fremont mom Teri Topham. “My daughter is thirteen. She needs to know how boys feel. I frankly don’t want her debating with other thirteen-year-olds how well the adult film industry is practicing safe sex.” Another parent, Asfia Ahmed, who has eighth and ninth grade boys, adds: “It assumes the audience is already drinking alcohol, already doing drugs, already have multiple sexual partners… Even if they are experimenting at this age, it says atypical sexual behaviors are normal. ”
But school board members contend that ninth grade students have already been exposed to the contents of the book and much, much more. They argue that even relatively modern sex ed has even not begun to reckon with what kids are now exposed to in person and online.
The singer Rihanna, for example, has legions of young fans. Her music video for the song S&M— viewed more than fifty million times on YouTube so far— shows the artist, pig-tied and writhing, cooing “chains and whips excite me”. It then cuts to her using a whip on men and women with mouths covered in duct tape.
“I think denying that sex is part of our culture in 2014 is really not serving our kids well,” says Lara Calvert-York, president of the Fremont school board, who argues that kids are already seeing hyper-sexualized content on after-school television. “So, let’s have a frank conversation about what these things are if that’s what the kids need to talk about,” she says. “And let’s do it in classroom setting, with highly qualified, credentialed teachers, who know how to have those conversations. Because a lot of parents don’t know how to have that conversation when they’re sitting next to their kids and it comes up in a television show. Everyone is feeling a little awkward.”
But the Fremont parents aren’t budging. “Any good parent monitors what their child has access to,” says Topham. “We don’t say: ‘they’re going to drink anyway, let’s give them a car with bigger airbags.’” The parents note that the book was actually written for college students, and refers to college-related activities like bar crawls. (While acknowledging this, the book’s author, Sara L. C. Mackenzie, believes it’s appropriate for high schoolers; her children read it at thirteen.)
The book has been shelved, at least for this year. But the problem isn’t going away. The Fremont showdown is a local skirmish in what has become a complicated and exhausting battle that schools and parents are facing across the nation: how, when, and what to tell kids about sex today.

Rico says they need to build a barn so that the kids can go out behind it and learn about sex or, like these people, other ways: